"Sometimes I want to ask God why He allows poverty, famine, and injustice in the world when He could do something about it, but I'm afraid He'd ask me the same question." ~Anonymous
Saturday, December 24, 2011
A Very Chenzhou Christmas!
Thursday, December 22, 2011
Lesson learned.
It’s funny how at the end of every year I look back and review everything that’s happened. Whether it be good or bad. Most of the time my year doesn’t go as planned. And I remember thinking in these situations… “why can’t everything just go according to plan? Let’s stick to the book.”
And then I realized… They are according to a plan. But not mine, His.
As I look back on these happenings though, I’m grateful for the unexpected. One, they keep life a little bit interesting. And two, the Lord teaches me lessons through these.
And even though they may not be fun at the time… It’s my favorite way to learn a lesson. I love it when the Lord allows me to see for myself the rules and lessons we must learn. It always means so much to me when He trusts me enough to give me an insight of what it means to be more like Him.
Like learning faithfulness. Trust. Unconditional love. Compassion. Forgiveness. Peace.
Those are only a few lessons 2011 has brought me.
And though the situations that caused some of them may not be what I planned or expected…. It’s more than I could have hoped they could be. They are a lesson learned.
Thursday, December 15, 2011
To YOU be the Glory
Chenzhou Christmas is on it's way! A big thanks to all of my friends and family, through them I received enough clothes to send over. It took a lot of time and packing, but it is finished. :) I sent 3 very full suitcases full of clothes and little activities for the kids. I found 3 students traveling home for the holidays who are taking them, and then they'll be shipped to the orphanage.
I had a few panic attacks when I didn't have enough curriers and A LOT of stuff to send... But the Lord pulled through like He always does and sent two more angels to carry the luggage :)
During the process I had a lot of people who were donating saying how amazing I am and can't believe I'm only in high school and doing this. Where it's flattering and I'd love to take credit for it all, it's not me. It's all the Lords work, and I'm honored that he's working through me. He has given me a heart for these children and I'm just happy to help in anyway. HE receives the glory. ALL of it. I am nothing without him. I'm worthless and incapable of doing anything without him. So for that, He receives all the credit.
So in that light, I'm thankful the Lord has provided for me to figure out how to do this. I've had a few learning experiences along the way, but it's only to prepare me for next year ;). I'm grateful that He has placed this passion in my heart to help this kids, and led me to do so, and carried me through it all. I'm do thankful for everything He has done for us, and everything He has made me to be. He receives the glory. He is the one who has made all things possible.
Anyways, I hope to get pictures in a few weeks whenever the orphanage receives the packages. I can't wait to see it all! The kids are going to love it. Again, thanks to everyone who has helped out. I really do appreciate it. It's going to be such a huge blessing for them, because I know they've needed warm winter clothes. Such a blessing. Thank you all... And have a Merry Christmas! :)
Sunday, November 6, 2011
Help Give the Chenzhou Orphanage a Christmas!
Two weeks ago I was talking with my mom about China, and as the cool winter air began to set in, we began wondering about my little buddies in the Chenzhou orphanage and how they were doing. I wondered how we could bless them this Christmas. So I emailed the orphanage director to ask if there was any way we could help. The next morning I was happy to receive a reply with pictures of “Will” (my Chenzhou buddy)….this is the best way to wake up, by the wayJ. They also said they do need winter clothes for the children in sizes 0-12 years old.
So here is where the importance of this post comes into play… I need YOUR help. While I wish I had the money to buy warm winter clothes for every child in the orphanage, I don’t think that is possible without the help of some friends. So, this Christmas, would you help bring Christmas to the orphans of Chenzhou?
A few ways you can help:
1) Sponsor a child by purchasing their winter clothing and, if you wish, some small gifts (*see small gift suggestions below). Or send money and we will shop for your sponsored child.
2) Get the word out to all your friends and family.
3) PRAY. Pray for the kids. Pray that they get the warm clothing they need in what can be a terribly cold winter for those living in an orphanage. Pray for a courier….we are working on finding a family who will be traveling to China and can bring an extra suitcase or two full of these donations (if you know of anyone, please let us know).
Here’s how it will work:
If you’re willing to sponsor a child email me (dancingjesusfreak@gmail.com) and I will send you a photo of your sponsored child. If you want to shop for your sponsored child, I will send you sizes along with the photo. If you would just like to send money, I will email you my home address and you can send a check to me. When the children receive their gifts, I will ask that the orphanage take photos that I can share with you. I can’t promise that they will take pictures of all the children, but I will ask them to take as many as possible.
Suggested gifts:
-Any winter clothing – long sleeved shirts/sweaters, pants, socks, hats, gloves, coats, scarves, blankets…you get the idea. All items should be new or like-new…preferably with tags.
-Small gifts that can fit in a 9x12 envelope. Small gifts can include: Stickers, coloring books, hair bows, jewelry, small candies, toy cars, toothbrushes, hairbrushes/combs, sun glasses, etc.
-Please do NOT send: large toys that don’t fit in a 9x12 envelope (we just won’t have space), nail polish, bubbles, gum, or anything heavy, sticky, or spill able.
-You and/or your child(ren) can send a note and a family picture. We will have the notes translated so the child or caregivers can read them.
My hope is to send the gifts for Christmas or Chinese New Year. I will need all donations (clothing or money) by December 4th.
These kids need our help! Can they count on you? I mean, how can you say no to these sweet faces? J
Wednesday, October 26, 2011
China On My Mind
Thursday, September 22, 2011
The Older I Get...
Monday, August 15, 2011
This Girl.
Thursday, July 14, 2011
Actions Speak Louder than Words
Friday, July 8, 2011
In Case You Ever Have Any Doubt...
Friday, July 1, 2011
The Movement
But yet I've hardly been home since I've been "home".
At least not for a full week.
Too much traveling for me. But I think after this week, I'm done for awhile.
I'm sick of traveling.
And I think the only thing that would make me super excited about hopping in a car/bus/airplane right now, would be if I was on my way to China. No Joke.
Friends we traveled with when we adopted Miyah are in China right now on a mission trip with VO. I find myself really jealous of them. They left only a few days after I returned home. It looks like their trip has been amazing so far. Check out their blog! And please keep them in your prayers, as I know from being there, tey need protection physically and emotionally, while they are there and after they have come home.
I posted earlier this week about being ruined. Our group leader, Shannon, had a great post about how she is ruined, and feels impossible to live with.
I know what she means.
I am ruined.
It may sound cliche after she's written this long post about it... but it's true.
I don't feel the same. I don't say the same things. I don't think the same.
I'm just not... the same.
I've found myself thinking so many times through everyday situations about the orphanage and the trip. Somehow, I can relate everything back or to how the kids live.
Suddenly after being there, life doesn't seem so bad.
And I don't know what it is about this year, but it really set in. I don't know why it hit me harder this year than it did last. Maybe because I'm older? I don't know.
I don't dread making my bed everyday. When my sisters complain about picking up their room, I think of the kids who don't have a room to share with their siblings.
Those who don't even have siblings.
I don't roll my eyes EVERY time my momma asks me to unload the dishwasher (I said not EVERY time, mom), because I actually have dishes to eat from.
I don't mind doing laundry, because I'm blessed to have more than two pairs of cloths to wear.
As my sisters complain about seeing Mr. Popper's Penguins when she wants to see Cars 2 instead, I think of how the kids see very few movies, let alone are fortunate enough to go to the theater and eat popcorn with their friends.
OR at dinner when she complains about not being able to eat raw carrots without Ranch dressing. And many of those kids (if any!) probably don't even know what carrots taste like, besides them being mixed in to their mush.
Yesterday my family and I drove to Wisconson. Along the way we encountered some strange architecture on the side of the road. And I think, "Why do people waste money on that? It's not beautiful. It has no purpose--specially in the middle of nowhere. They could've used that money to send someone on a mission trip, bring a child home, or pay for a surgery."
Yeh, that's just how my brain works now.
It's not that I'm thinking bad of my sisters or those people. I do it too. I forget and have my selfish days, too. It just sickens me that we're so spoiled. We have it way better than we could imagine. We don't appreciate the little things in life. And people have so much money, that they don't know what to do with it. Why not put that money to better use, and change one person's life?
RUINED.
But I can't complain. I feel like I have something to live for now. I KNOW there are orphans out there that need help. And I was put on this earth to help them.
I think they're up to 150 million orphans in the world now. Who's going to help them?
Me.
I am. I will help them.
Since I've been home I've had this stirring in my heart that I need to do MORE. There had to be something I can do here to help. My summer mission didn't have to stop in the Chenzhou orphanage. I can still help.
I was getting so restless doing nothing. Just sitting around.
There HAD to be SOMETHING out there I could help with.
And I found it.
I found a great organization called The Movement. Many of you have probably heard of Show Hope, an organization that gives away grants to adoptive families. Show Hope was started by Steven Curtis Chapman, the main reason we started thinking about adopting (after hearing their story at a concert). The Movement is for teens, and simply put: it's teens caring for orphans.
Right up my alley.
I contacted them, and I'll be volunteering with them over the summer. Right now they're working with a Child Departement of Services near us. I've only been able to be once since I've been home... but it was so much fun. I plan to be back every week. You have NO idea how excited I am.
I hope to get my school started with what they call a club. How great would that be?
That's actually the reason why I found this. I wanted to get my school started in service projects, and my mom suggested them. And I'm so glad she did.
There were other places I looked into. Like helping stop child trafficking, or ending hunger. And those organizations are GREAT, and much needed, and I'm open for my school to be involved in them. But for some reason, they just didn't grab me.
But this did.
Orphans.
I don't know what it is about that ONE word, but it grabs me and pulls me in. It gets me everytime. Breaks my heart, and I can't help but care.
I'm glad the Lord has made this so apparent to me, and I thank Him for that on a regular basis. I finally found what I care about, and it's clear to me.
I'm so excited.
If you live in the TN area and you want to get in involved in The Movement and help out, check out the link. I reccomend it. They're fairly new, and still trying to figure everything out, but I think they're doing great. Check it out, and see how you can help!
Monday, June 27, 2011
R U I N E D
Sunday, June 19, 2011
HOME
HOME.
It’s a beautiful word.
You know the saying, “Home is where the heart is”?
Well, I find myself struggling with that.
My heart is in China, and yet, I am home. I’ve been home for a little over a day now. Haven’t I? Or was I home for those two weeks that I was in China? Hmm… it’s puzzling.
But for now, I have been home in TN for a full day. And it does feel good, even though I do miss China dearly.
It’s the little things that makes life worth with, and so much easier. For instance…
Not feeling like you’re going to die everytime you hop in the car. Or taking a shower in your bathroom. Or brushing your teeth from the tap. Or texting your best friend whenever you want. Or being able to talk to your parents. Watching movies in a comfortable bed. Seeing trees! Going to church. Understanding what everyone is saying in a large crowd. Not feeling like the odd one out. Or being able to hear your sisters giggle and laugh until they can’t breathe anymore.
Yes, after 36 hours of traveling, I’m grateful to be in Tennessee. I’m grateful to be home. I’m grateful to be with my family.
I got home around 10 am yesterday, and wasn’t tired. But I took a shower and sat down to catch up on my tv shows, and soon discovered that I was. I slept all afternoon until about 8pm. I got up, and was sad. I had a head ache, and was feeling a bit miserable. But also feeling almost depressed. Tears filled my eyes as I realized my trip was really over. I wasn’t in China. I wouldn’t wake up to horn honking, and bitty baby faces. I thought to myself, “What would I be doing? This summer will be so boring.” I mean, it’ll be busy… but nothing seemed important at that moment. How could anything be more important than those precious children waiting in an orphanage across the world? I felt useless, because I was not there. Suddenly the rest of my summer seemed pointless. It as weird.
After my little emotional episode, I was able to skype with our foreign exchange student (who is from Shanghai)! She is very sweet, and I am excited to have her living with us. And then I watched a movie with my momma and fell fast asleep. For about 7 hours. My mission for today was to stay away all day long. So far, I’ve been successful. But I’m so tired right now. I could die. BLECK.
Let the record show, that I hate jet lag. It’s the only down side to going to China. :/
Oh well, hopefully I’ll beat it soon.
But yes, my team and I have all made it back safely to our homes. We are all sad to have left China, and left one another. I miss my team. No matter how different we may be… we all had a special bond. We all were at the same orphanage, had the same experience, we are all Team Chenzhou 2011. They were all great people, and I’m sad to leave them. But we are home, we are with family and friends. My team will forever have a special place in my heart, and I can’t wait until our paths cross again.
Okay, I need to stop now. I’ve been droning on and on now, and I’m really sorry. I’m tired, and don’t know when to stop. Haha.
But just so you know, I’ve made it home, safe and sound. :)
Just Chillin in Beijing
(Here is my blog from our days in Beijing)
Well, it Rains in Asia.
I hope some of you got the song reference. Charlie…. I know you did :)
As we landed in Beijing the first night, we were greeted with drips of rain falling from the sky.
It’s funny, because we soon realized that Beijing did not really seem like China anymore. I mean, it was of course, its just so westernized compared to the rural area of Chenzhou that we’d been in, that we felt like we were home.
As soon as we got off the plane, I heard people who could speak English. At the baggage claim, no one pushed and shoved to get to their luggage. Elyssa and I turned around when we got our bags, and Starbucks greeted us on the other side. The bathrooms were CLEAN. They didn’t smell bad. They were western toilets, not the squatty potties, AND they even had toilet paper! It was a nice change of pace.
After we had checked into our hotel that night, we quickly left for the mall to find a pizza hut. YES, pizza. The only thing was, it started raining pretty hard. What’d I tell you? It rains in Asia.
The sidewalks in China are funny… they’re not the type of pavement that we have here… they’re slippery when they get wet. And we all had flip flops on…
Plus, half of our group forgot umbrellas at home, so we all were sharing them. Shannon, Elyssa, and I all squeezed under my tiny little thing. It was very windy, and halfway through our walk, it completely flipped inside out, just like in the movies, we’re all screaming, and slipping around, grabbing each other for support…even though we know the person next to us will slip as well. Haha! I’m sure we were quite the sight.
But hey, it was worth it for pizza hut. The warm taste of pizza. Mmmm, it was good. :)
The next day we met in the lobby and drove to Shepard’s Field. It’s about an hour away. It took us a little bit longer though, because our bus driver was confused as to where we were actually going. HA. We finally got there though, and we were immediately amazed by how great the facility was. It was like a little city…
We brought our donations into the main building, and unloaded them all. I was actually surprised because we had so much stuff to give them. It filled the long table they had laid out. The two people who greeted us told our team that with all of the donations we gave, we basically gave a child a surgery… all because they saved that much money on buying every day supplies. I thought that was amazing.
We came at an hour where the kids were all sleeping, so we had time to kill before they woke up. We were brought into the gift shop to look around and see what they had. They had some really cool things that I really enjoyed. All of the profits made from merchandise went towards the kids at this foster home, so I was really excited about that.
We were happy to see some other Americans there… they were there to help out for a few weeks. What’s cool to me is that they actually were able to stay at the Foster Home in a “hotel” above one of the houses, and hung out with one another while the kids slept. They worked hard trying to get sponsors for the kids, as well as advocating for their adoptions.
We ate lunch, then sat down with a few of the people who work there to find out all about what they do there, and what Shepard’s Field is all about. Basically what they do at Shepard’s Field is this: take kids from orphanages from all over China who would not receive the care they need. All of the kids at this Foster Home have some sort of disability, and receive the proper care they need. Many orphanages ask them to take the kids, so they will get attention/receive surgeries they cannot fund for. It really is an amazing organization.
We took a look through all the buildings they have. They have a lunchroom, school area, crafts area, a garden, huge playground, 4 houses, and they’re in the process of building a therapy building. They teach the of all ages English… partly to make their transition easier if they’re adopted, and if not adopted, it’s a life skill that could get them far. They also work hard to train the kids who will not be adopted in some skill that they enjoy so they may be able to make a life for themselves some way or another. They want these kids to have a life… not just locked up in the foster home for their whole life.
We then were able to split up into four groups to each go to a house to visit with the kids. The ratio of nanny to kids in this foster home is 1:2, they said. And it was apparent to us this was probably true. Most of the kids were in school when we visited, but there was plenty of help. In the house we were in, 3 kids, 4 nannies, and 4 of us. It’s a very rare thing to say… but there weren’t enough kids to go around! Ha. At points I felt almost useless… all the kids had their own little partner (or two… or three).
I think Shepard’s Field is one of those places you almost have to go for a few days to actually be able to help. The kids are all disabled, so it was hard to know what you could and couldn’t do with them—we needed to know their story and we needed people to show us how to care properly for them, but we just didn’t have enough time. So for that reason, I felt useless too.
So, at that point I was able to go look around the wall of tiles. They have a fundraiser where you can pay money to have a tile put up on their wall, and you can write whatever you want with your name. Well, when we were waiting for Miyah, we made a tile for her… and I was able to find it and take a picture of it for her:)
After that, our visit came to a close. Where I did feel useless at points, I was very glad we came. It was a great experience, to see the good these people are doing. They have an amazing foster home, and the only better place these kids could be would be with a forever family. They are in such great care here.
On our last day, Lori pointed something out. There is a huge contrast between the kids at Shepard’s Field, and the Chenzhou SWI. The babies were more active, and talking more at Shepard’s Field… where at Chenzhou, most kids did not babble, most could not stand on their own let alone walk.
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying Chenzhou is a bad place. They do care for the kids, and they do the best they can, with what they’re given. It’s just that they don’t have as much help, and they don’t have as much time to care for each kid individually. What the people at Shepard’s Field are doing… is just amazing.
We left thankful we were able to visit.
That night we were all pretty tired and ready to go to bed. I don’t remember what we really did… except for the fact that I was exhausted.
The next day we woke up bright and early to climb the Great Wall. We drove out there for about 1 ½ hours. Elyssa and I soon discovered that we had come back to the same place we went last year. And it wasn’t any easier this year, haha. We were all so tired, feeling pretty sick by the time we made it to the top. But I must say, out of the 13 people in our group, 10 of us made it to the top:) Along the way I was documenting how steep the climb us, and there were Chinese people who kept up the same pace as us, and soon realized I was taking pictures. Everytime I turned around to take one, this one guy would throw up his peace signs and smile. Ohhh the Chinese…
Shannon told me I should get a punch card for frequent visits… my 4th time up to the top, I think I should get in free, don’t you? Maybe next year… ;)
At the top we were greeted by a nice Chinese man who was selling tiles saying you made it to the top with the date and name engraved in it. I had one already from Mei Lin’s adoption trip, so I didn’t get one. But I think everyone else did. As he handed them their tile he said in a very enthusiastic voice, “You deserve it!” haha. He was very funny.
At the bottom, we got our group picture, and Elyssa and I got our annual picture in front of the wall which we got last year… only this time without Charlie :(
After the Great Wall, we went to the Jade Factory for lunch. No one really wanted anything from there… so it was kind of a waste of time. But, oh well.
We then rushed back to the hotel to change quickly and run back to the Silk Market. By the time we got there, we only had 1 ½ hours to shop before we had to leave. Elyssa and I were on a mission… and we dashed through the place getting the best deals we could on the items we wanted. Many people told us we were really hard bargainers. Once, I had just closed a deal with a girl and the chick in the store next to us looked at me and said, “ohh you are very smart, and drive a hard bargain.” Haha, why thank you :) I was sad to hear that most of the people in our group didn’t like the silk market… apparently it was too stressful to get the deal they wanted. I don’t know why, but I kind of got an adrenalin rush everytime it came down to “what’s the price”? haha.
After our shopping, we went to the Flying Acrobat Show. I was really impressed… I mean, the things these people could do was insane. Their flexibility, their strength, their balance. Amazing. I would recommend to anyone who is going to china to try and go to the acrobat show… it just seems so much cooler when you’re actually in China, I think.
That night we didn’t get back until late, and we ran to McDonalds for dinner. Of course. The next day we had to leave, so we still had to pack all of our stuff up, because we had to check out of the hotel pretty early the next day, before we went sightseeing. I was up late that night.
The next day we woke up and got ready, ate breakfast, checked out, and went to the Tiananmen Square and the Forbidden city. WE somehow managed to make it through both of them in 1 ½ hours. Which, I can’t complain. It was my 3rd time being there… I wasn’t too thrilled to have to go again. I mean, it’s cool and all… but it’s one of those places that you go, get your picture, and you probably never really want to do it again. But that’s okay. It was still fun going with our group.
We came back, changed our clothes, and threw the souvenirs we’d bought at the Forbidden City into our suitcases and we were ready to go to the airport. But not without a cake and celebrating Elyssa’s 15th birthday first! :) We got a cake and celebrated for a little bit. It was really nice.
On the way to the airport, we had devotions time. We sang for a little bit, and went around and shared what the most amazing part of our trip was. It was great to hear how everyone felt, and how each of us has grown emotionally and spiritually.
I’ll tell you, if this trip was nothing else, it was emotional.
And if this trip was nothing else, it was faith building.
I realized that this trip was all about faith and love. Faith to raise the funds, faith to trust in the Lord. Faith when we had a rough start to our trip—that everything would turn out fine. Love—for these kids. I found myself so many times as I held a baby, or laughed with a kid, how much I loved them. I genuinely loved each and every kid, and their spirits. And as I prayed over their lives, and as I sang and dance with them, I realized that the Savior of my life, my Father, loves me so much more than I love these kids. Not only does He love ME, but He loves each and every one of those kids… with a Love that is far to extraordinary for me to fully comprehend. He loves us. No matter if we know Him, or if we don’t. No matter if love Him back or not. No matter what we’ve done, no matter how undeserving we think we may be. HE LOVES US. Every single one of us… and that became so apparent to me on this trip.
Another thing that struck me was this: you can build relationships with people halfway across the world. I was amazed to see how happy the orphanage was to see Elyssa and I come back, and to see how that by the end of the week the nannies were comfortable with us, and how the director wanted to take us all shopping, and even pleasure shopping as well. It was incredible. We really need to keep that relationship up with them… I think if we do, amazing things will happen for that orphanage.
I also think I found that I would love to live in china. I would love to work in a foster home, or in an orphanage and help in anyway I can. The kids need help. Many won’t give them the proper care they need… and if no one steps up to the plate… they won’t get it. So why should I expect someone else to? If not me, then who? I think my eyes were opened on this trip to see that.
By the time we had all finished going around and prayed, the much dreaded ride hour or so ride to the airport was over. It was weird to grab all of our luggage and check in for our flights. The lady at the desk asked me, “Your bags go all the way to San Francisco?” I felt weird.
Should I really be leaving China?
Was our trip really over already?
I just didn’t seem right. It felt like we had only arrived there yesterday. To be honest, I wasn’t homesick yet. I was content with where I was. I felt like I was at home. Even in Chenzhou, where everything was so different.
Why was I leaving???
I dreaded going through security and onto our gate, where I knew I would be on a flight for so long. Where I knew I’d be traveling for an even longer time. It would take me 4 flights, and many layovers to get home. EW.
The flights were actually not that bad. The long flight wasn’t full, so Elyssa and I had an empty seat in between us, which we took turns laying down and sleeping. I slept for 6-7 hours on that flight, which was a miracle.
All of our flights were great though. Fairly bumpy, though. But nothing we can’t live without. I could’ve lived without the problems Elyssa had with her flights, and the problems Delta gave us trying to figure them out… but that’s okay. Everything worked out just fine, and I am home safely.
One of my connections landed in Cincinnati, and when Elyssa and I got off, we immediately looked for food. The one thing we had been saying we were looking forward to was Chick-fil-a, but realized we were going to miss the breakfast time by the time we reached home. BUT WE FOUND ONE THERE. It was the happiest moment of the day. I couldn’t believe it… it was sent from heaven, I’m sure of it. ;)
Anyways, Elyssa and I parted there… and it was just weird. I sat at my next gate waiting, by myself. It took me all of 30 minutes to realize that I really truly missed her. Already. Haha. She was such a great travel partner, eating buddy, and roommate. I’m so happy I was able to share this experience with her this year.
And I suppose that’s the close of my China trip, I guess. It’s sad… but true.
Until next year…. ;)
Monday, June 13, 2011
Last Day at Chenzhou SWI
Sunday night we had a great devotion time. We spent a lot of time talking about the orphanage and such, too. All of those kids have blessed and touched each and every one of our lives. As we prayed, I don't think there was a dry eye in the room. I knew that saying goodbye the next day was going to be hard--a second time, a second year.
Am I crazy? I put myself through this last year, and I wanted to do it... AGAIN?
I mean, I started this whole journey this year saying "Call Me Crazy" (blog post). I guess I am. Its worth it to see these kids. The joy that they have, and the joy that they bring others is just amazing.
Elyssa was tired and fell asleep before devotions, and I let her sleep. When I got back to the room I slipped into bed. I couldn't sleep. I kept seeing the faces of the kids. Those who are fortunate enough to be adopted, but mostly those who were not. Those who have the possibility of being stuck at this orphanage for life.
This one girl in particular. She's 13. The cut off age in China for children to be adopted is 14 (on their 14th birthday they become ineligible for adoption). THIS IS HER LAST YEAR TO BE ADOPTED, or she'll be here forever. She's such a sweetheart. I've seen her help out with the babies, playing and caring for them, but she's also a kid at heart. She plays along with the others, and enjoyed the activities we laid before her. She has the most infectious smile and laugh. Her favorite color is yellow, and she says she wants to be adopted. She wants a home, and she NEEDS a home. The only thing "wrong" with her is that she has cerebral palsey (sp?) In her left hand. She has learned to work around it, though. I often times forget about it when I watch her play. There is no reason why this girl should not have a home by now. I can only pray that she will find a home that loves and cares for her.
As I laid in bed, I cried. I knew the next day at the orphanage was our last. Maybe my last forever. While I hope that I will be able to return, I don't know what the Lord has in store for me. Maybe it is to return to this SWI, but maybe another in a different province.
I don't know. I can't really explain what I was feeling. I was happy I got to do this again. Don't get me wrong, its such a blessing to be here. I just wish I was able to stay for so much longer. Like, a full week. Maybe even two.
Or my whole life, maybe?
I know I said this last year. But, the food is great. The beds get easier. I don't mind walking everywhere (it works off all the food we eat!), and I could learn the language.
*sigh* I guess all good things must come to an end.
I soon fell asleep, thank God. :)
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Yesterday morning (Monday) Elyssa and I were so tired that we decided to skip breakfast and sleep in a little. I'm glad I did--I hardly eat breakfast at home anyways. And we've been eating huge meals every day, that I wasn't even hungry.
We were sent straight to the baby room when we got to the orphanage. I found one of the babies whose being adopted, Austin, and played with him all morning. I've already told his parents--but he loves playing with the balls we brought, and has quite the arm. I see a possible future in football or baseball for this boy ;) he's very happy, and reminds me of a little teddy bear. I really enjoyed playing with him.
Austin and Me
The time came for us to leave, and we all said goodbye. Many of us have grown attached to our own baby at this orphanage, so it was hard. Tears streamed down faces.
Lori had a child, about 2 or 3 years old, who became attached to her. She had quite the attitude, and wanted nothing to do with anyone. Lori somehow broke through to her, and every time she left this week, this girl would cry. She did not want to leave Lori (you can read about her at Lori's blog at http://fiveofmyown.blogspot.com--she refers to her as Mu Shu Pork, haha!). That was hard for both of them, I think.
Lori w/her Mu Shu
Saying goodbye. Its never easy, and it doesn't get easier as time passes. Unfortunately.
For lunch not too many were hungry, so instead of eating our large Chinese lunches, we ran to KFC. Of course. I've never eaten this much fast food in one week. Eww.
Elyssa and I ran over to the market to find some candies and juice. We were able to successfully shop without being yelled at by the chocolate lady. Though, when I walked down the aisle with the Dove chocolate, she ran over and acted like she was checking prices. I just don't understand.
At the hotel I tried to pack a little bit. Somehow when I packed, my checked suitcase filled up really quickly. I did take most of my clothes out of my carry on... But still. That thing was huge and FULL of donations. I don't get how I fit everything I had in there into my carry ons on the way here.
For the afternoon at the orphanage we thought it'd be nice to throw a little party. So we bought the kids a cake and brought it over.
As we walked over that day Elyssa looks over at me and says, "well, this is our last walk to the orphanage." *tear*
When we got there, we were told to go upstairs. When I walked down the hall, the older kids were all standing by the door peeking out. When I looked in the door, there was my little boy sweeping.
I wondered as we were walking whether or not he'd be there. I figured he would be at school because he normally is. I hoped he would be, but I almost hoped he wouldn't, because I knew it'd be hard to see his face and have to say goodbye. Especially after last year when he started crying.
But there he was. The crazy girl came and took my hand and ran around... Crazy as she always is ;)
We brought them downstairs and sat them down. We opened the cake and the look on their faces was great. We put a candle in the cake. This candle was really cool--it was a flower, and when you lit it, it opened up and blossomed and sang! I was more amazed than the kids, I think. Haha.
We served cake and juice, and they devoured it. Frosting was all over faces :)
The oldest girl (13) and my boy, Will, were able to have some before they left for school. But soon after eating they had to leave. I grabbed him and gave him a huge hug and got one last picture with him. Tears filled my eyes, but I kept myself from actually crying.
After cleaning up the cake we brought all of our dress up items out. Costumes, hair clips, headbands with colored hair attached, necklaces, tutus, glasses, and dragon tails. They all just loved it. It was funny to see the kids who tried to get one of everything on their body. The crazy girl was one of those, of course. I just love her so much. She has so much personality, its great.
After dressing up we put on some music and had a little parade/dance in the room. I held hands with Miss Crazy and a sweet little girl with down syndrome. We danced and played all around. Crazy kept bending backwards relying on me to keep her from falling--I don't know how that girl does it. She's so flexible. The other girl was just smiling away, jumping up and down. :)
To calm them down, we took out little scratch-off ornaments. The kids had a lot of fun with them. It was cool to see how artistic a lot of them are. Miss Crazy drew some lovely flowers. She came up to me and held it up like she wanted a picture, so I took one. Then she handed them to me. I asked if they were for me, and she nodded yes.
I cried.
She's such a sweet girl, and for her to give them to me, it just made me so happy.
I gave her a BIG hug and told her thank you. She thought the hug was so funny. She just laughed and laughed. After that she would keep coming up to me and giving me hugs. And I realized, I don't think I've ever given her an actual hug--and obviously our team hasn't either for her to think it was so funny (I mean, its not like we've ever been able to get her still long enough to give a hug;)). That girl is nothing but fun. Always laughing and smiling. I don't think I've ever seen her upset--and when she is, its only over small things.
Oh, can I also say that the girl that I mentioned a few days ago (the one with the muscle disorder) was smiling today--the biggest smile I've seen all week. Members from our team all spent a little time with her today, and she was so happy to be dressed up and marching around. It really touched my heart.
I left a little early to go find some babies who are being adopted. Their new parents wanted some updates on how they were doing. I played with a few of them, and then the rest of the team came up. They said they had said their goodbyes and took a group picture. I was kind of sad I missed it. But I had left my bag downstairs, so I ran down to get it.
I was pleased to see all the kids were still down there. I went around and gave each of them kisses on the cheek. When I got to Miss Crazy, she wrapped her arm around me and laughed.
I'm going to miss her so much.
I said goodbye and blew more kisses and left. The elevator ride up seemed so long. I don't know why, but goodbyes seem so much worse when you're by yourself.
None of us expected to be back in the baby room again. We had already said our goodbyes, but I think most were happy to have more time. Though Lori says, "oh I don't wanna do this again. I already ripped this bandaid off once... Now I'll have to do it again."
Back in the baby room I played and fed miss Lyla. I've already emailed her parents, but she's also a very happy baby. She just loves being played with. She's ticklish and loves playing airplane. And she's a very small girl, but as cute as can be.
Time came to say our real goodbyes. In the elevator all we could hear was sniffles.
We had a meeting with the director and presidents of the orphanage. They told us how grateful they were that we came and helped out. And they said they hoped we would come again someday. They presented us with gifts. Each of us got a map of Chenzhou and a beautiful piece of embroidery, case and stand to go with it. It was very pretty.
As we left the oldest girl (13) was walking back from school. I ran up to her and gave her a big hug. As we walked on, I looked back to see her smiling face once more and prayed that if I ever came back, she would not be here because she had found a family.
We went out to dinner with the directors and a few of the nannies. They took us to the same place as last year. I sat down, and it felt so different. Last year Will and the older girl came with us, and they sat on either side of me. I remember as each new food came around they got excited and asked me to get it for them. And I wasn't so great at chopsticks, and I wasn't able to get it for them fast enough. Haha. I was like their mother for a night, and I hardly ate anything.
I got to eat my food last night, but it wasn't exciting. I would have rather gone hungry and had those kids with me again, than to eat a nice meal. But that's okay.
The dinner was very nice. Shannon was bold enough to pray and we had Fun (our guide) translate. The food was great. With the help of Fun, we were able to ask questions and talk with the directors. I really did enjoy myself. Even with the lack of kids.
Lori and Shannon were curious about our trip compared to last year. I'd say it was about the same. Though we did not get to spend as much time with the older kids, it was worth it. All the hard work and stress to get here was so worth it. If I had only gotten to see them for a day, it would have been worth it. I was just happy to be back.
We also thought that we built more of a relationship with the orphanage and the workers. I think the fact that a team from VO cared enough to come back and love on them and the kids, really made a difference. I hope a team comes back next year so we do keep up that relationship. Because really, by the end, I felt like they were my friends. I love them all so very much.
I think we had a lot of people saying they would come back again if they could. Maybe a Chenzhou team in 2012 will be filled with many from this year's team. I would hope so. How amazing would that be? I hope I can come back again.
Shannon said that if she were to come back again, she would want someone on the team who could speak the language. Fun was wonderful, but sometimes it was still hard. And we all felt bad because we would just bombard her with questions. I told her I really am going to work on learning Mandarin this year. I know I said it last year, but this time I mean it. Hah. I'm going to do it.
She also said that next year she'll suggest spending more time there. It felt like we were just beginning to know the kids and build their trust, and we had to leave. The director said it would be fine, and that we could stay as long as we wanted if we were to come back. We may just take her up on that offer ;)
We had to say goodbye, but not before pictures. The director was sweet and pulled me close to her in the picture. We gave hugs and said bye. I think it was hardest for me to say goodbye to the head nanny. She was my favorite last year (and still is), and she's just so sweet. You can really tell she loves the children with all her heart and she cares for us as well.
We walked away, and it was just a weird feeling, knowing we would not wake up to go see the kids tomorrow morning.
We got back and I was so tired. It was a draining day--physically and emotionally. I packed up the rest of my stuff, wrote some updates on babies to send to their waiting parents, and went to bed.
I am now sitting on the bus driving to Changsha. About 3 hours ago I looked out the window and watched the view of Chenzhou leave my window. Its just a weird feeling. It can't be described. The kids just leave such a great mark on your life, and you wish you could take them all home. Or stay forever.
Oh well.
Today we drive to Changsha, and then we fly to Beijing. Tomorrow we'll be spending the day at Shepard's Field playing with the kids and such. And then the next day will be sightseeing/shopping.
I probably won't blog tonight, because nothing too interesting will be happening.
Though, the last time I said that, our group leader's purse got stolen. So hopefully, that statement will be true this time. Haha.
Thank you all for your prayers. I believe they helped us all. For the most part we composed our tears yesterday. Even though I was sad to leave, I felt a peace that the Lord is looking over that orphanage, and has great plans for those kids.